Outdated Gender Divisions Of Labor Have Infiltrated Your Castle
Some sobering statistics...
- “According to the United Nations, the modern woman still does nearly three times as much unpaid domestic work as a man.” Excerpt from the book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
- A Reader's Digest article shared an illuminating study that stated women work 98 hours a week on average.
- A 2020 study by the Pew Research Center found that 55% of men in a domestic relationship were happy with the division of household chores, but only 38% of women felt the same.
- According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, compared to their husbands, women work AT LEAST one hour more every day on chores, raising children, and taking care of the family. The numbers tell a story: women are overworked, and men are oblivious.
- The average amount of time per year spent on just cleaning alone is 690 HOURS...that's like cleaning for a month straight. Chores alone consume one full month out of your life.
- Terms like "invisible labor", "default parent" or "second shift" refer to the immense, unrecognized load most moms carry.
- A 2019 study from Salary.com revealed that if stay-at-home moms/parents were to get paid for the hours they spend on the tasks they perform, they'd earn $178,201.
In The Privacy Of The Queen's Chamber, Most Moms Share That They Didn't Sign Up For This...
As a modern mother, you might be struggling with...
- Worrying and losing sleep over what everyone else thinks about how you're "performing" as a mother.
- Getting wrapped up with everyone else's problems by micro-managing, assuming the role of the martyr, or being a perfectionist, so that you have no "me time" at the end of the day.
- Feel crushing guilt, because you think you're not spending enough time with your family. You're supposed to mother like you don't have a job, and do your job like you don't have kids.
- Afraid to delegate, because you've bought into society's outdated beliefs around division of labor and what mothers are "supposed" to be responsible for.
- Feeling consumed by anger and resentment, because you're plain exhausted and fed up.
- You have no clue how to make some changes, which means your health is suffering from the crushing stress and overwhelm from all you have to do.
It's Not Your Fault, Dear Momma...
Queen Of Delegation Course was birthed out of the lessons I learned through my own serious healing journey with Chronic Fatigue/CFS. As a working mom, I also experienced what many moms refer to as the "Mother-Load" from the unequal division of labor with domestic duties and family responsibilities, and society's perception of what mothers are expected to do.
Ways You Could Be Neglecting Yourself And Not Standing Up For Your Mental, Emotional And Physical Health...
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Never prioritizing time for yourself, and the idea of "self-care" is an un-attainable illusion.
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Feeling anxious and worried that if you took some "me time" you'd be labled a "bad or selfish mom."
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Just dreaming (but never acting) about having enough "me time" for some much-need self-care, time with friends or some rejuvenating time in nature that you KNOW would do wonders to take the pressure off.
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Rescuing everyone in your life, even when they didn't ask for help, in order to feel valuable.
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Allowing the micro-manager, or the perfectionist (or as my therapist once called me..." a high-functioning female) to run wild, and never ask for help but seethe with resentment, because no one's volunteering to help.
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Jump to a quick "yes" to everyone else's to-do list when you really want to scream "NO!"
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Subconsciously play the "martyr" role, so you can throw a pity party for one and say "look how much I do for you, and this is the thanks I get" ...I had weekly parties like these 😢
- Never advocating for yourself, or prioritizing your own self-care needs.
Imagine If You Could...
- Make the "invisible Labor" visible to your partner, your family...and even to yourself, so honest conversations can happen about making equitable changes.
- Negotiate a new division of labor with your partner to share the 690 hours a year spent on domestic duties, so you can get some luxurious free time to yourself. What a concept, right?
- Quit the "Second Shift"...the one that most moms say they didn't sign up for, so you can share some of the 98 hours you work a week to get more than a nanosecond of time to rest without hearing "mom...mom...mom!"
- Slay the dragons of micro-managing, perfectionism and martyrdom, so your family can step up and help with pride.
- Embody the Queen Archetype to feel soverign and empowered as a mother and a woman, so you can be "unapologetically you"
...Send Out A Royal Proclaimation That It's Time For A More Fair & Equitable Division Of Labor
A Bit About Me
AND...Why I Created This Course For YOU
Hey there...I'm Lorie Solay
First...I gotta say that I'm so honored to have supported hundreds of incredible women and mothers like you!
Most of them come to me when they're beyond exhausted. They're frustrated, weepy and more often than not, deeply angry.
They'd been suffering in silence, hoping others would read their minds about how overwhelmed and burned out they've been. And when their family, friends, co-workers and bosses didn't get it...they felt even more hopeless and resentful.
Through coaching, they quickly learned that most of their feelings of...
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frustration
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resentment
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anger
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guilt
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relationship conflicts
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moodyness
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sleep issues
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time-management complaints
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lack of personal time
...were all signs of boundary & self-worth issues, so guess what? The decided they were finally ready to prioritize themselves.
Who This Course Is For...
Queen Of Delegation is for...
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Working Moms
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Mom-preneurs
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Stay-At-Home Moms (SAHM's)
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Soon-To-Be Moms
...And Let's Just Call It Like It Is ...All Moms Are Working Moms!
The Great News! You don't need a ton of time to do this course, because it's broken up into bite-size lessons that can be implemented immediately.
What You DO Need?...To finally be ready to prioritize "YOU" and make changes with the division of labor in your QUEENDOM.
Get the Keys To YOUR Castle with done-for-you templates, conversation starters and best-practices for negotiation.
...Claim your sovereignty and show up for yourself every day.
Queen Of Delegation teaches your subconscious mind to notice those old, unhealthy boundary patterns, and replace them with healthy, self-loving, time & energy protecting habits. You'll feel empowered with new delegation skills. The methods & strategies in the Queen Of Delegation Course are like using a Control-Alt-Delete button for old, unhealthy habits and beliefs around a mother's role, parenting and divisions of labor in the home and at work.
Working Moms
Working moms can face challenges with colleagues, bosses and employers that aren't empathetic to her home responsibilities, and expect her to be available 24/7. The demands and pressure of managing both career and family is exhausting. She unfairly blames herself, and shoulders enormous guilt when her child is hurt, sick or is underpforming in school.
Emilie's Story
"I'm angry most of the time. I'm sick and tired of doing everything for my family, and holding down my career. I've got two teenagers and they’re capable of doing a lot for themselves. My partner is oblivious to all the behind-the-scenes work that it takes to keep our family running, and is very willing to let all of it fall into my lap. He's also clueless about how much pressure and taunting I get at work when I ask to leave to pick up a sick kid from school. It pisses me off, and I'm not in the mood for romance. I know things are not equal between us, but I don't know how to get out of the cycle. I need to find my voice and set clear boundaries with my time and energy, with my family and my job. My health depends on it."
Mompreneurs
Mompreneurs are challenged with balancing it all, and in a perpetual state of mastering time, schedules and productivity. She can sometimes suffer from imposter syndrome, so tries exceptionally hard to prove her worth. She may downplay her worth, undervalue her effort, and neglect to celebrate her achievements. Mompreneurs can struggle with lack of support, because she tends to be a solopreneur and "doing it all." Even more heartbreaking, she may not be supported by her partner. She loves what she does, but feels immense guilt over the push-pull between her career passion and family responsibilities.
Kat's Story
"I'm an entrepreneur, and a go-getter. I'm really struggling right now, so I lock myself in the bathroom and cry. I feel caught between work and family. I'm so overwhelmed with everything I'm balancing. I love what I do, but feel guilty I'm missing family moments. I'm beyond tired. My brain feels foggy and confused. I just want to take better care of myself. I want more balance between work and family. I want help creating a plan to organize my life around my values and make my health my #1 priority."
Stay-At-Home Moms
Stay-at-home moms can easily be consumed by the "mom" role and lose her identity. She often faces huge responsibilities with the (non-paying) domestic duties, child care, cooking, shopping...her contributions to the family can be undervalued and unappreciated, and the undervalued view of labor at-home creates horribly damaging standards. She can struggle with self-worth, and lack of accomplishment in her life. At times, she can feel very alone.
Gwen's Story
"I really get sick and tired of getting these questions..."So, what do you do all day?" or "Must be nice not to have to work." I work hard all day long, even if I don't get paid for it. But I should, because when I think what it would cost to hire someone to do everything I do like, feed the kids, cook, teach, clean, care for the kids....and all the emotional and mental labor, the behind the scenes work I do would cost my family my husband's entire monthly salary. And...I feel like I have to earn the right to be home with my kids, like I have to do everything to perfection to prove my worth. The pressure I feel makes me constantly edgy, easily angered, resentful and utterly exhausted. I want to learn how to feel more self-worth and self-love."
NOW...Start Delegating To Liberate Some Of Your Precious Time & Energy
Inside The Course
A Queen's Mindset & Observations From The Throne...
First, we'll cover the current state of your queendom. This lesson opens with mindset, your "rights" and your "why." Then you'll learn about the feminine archetype of the queen, all her attributes, and how to embody her power. You'll be informed by some eye-opening statistic about why women are struggling and cover terms "invisible workload" the "mother-load" and the "default parent" and the "second shift."
Family Accountability Chore Audit Chart
This lesson discusses the importants of doing a family chore audit to highlight who's doing what. You'll learn the best-practices to having honest conversations about distributing responsibilities more equitably. Remember, chores are not "your responsibility" and they're not "women's work."
Negotiation Formula Template
This lesson covers the basics of negotiation. You'll learn how to get prepared for negotiations, how to express your feelings, for example...your overwhelm and frustration, and how to get those most important signed treaties.
Keys To The Castle
This lesson reviews all the done-for-you templates you can use to help your family learn chore standards and requirements, the what and when of their responsibilities, and how to make the best of and enjoy roundtable family summit meetings. Afterall, a queen build loyalty and recognized other's strengths.
Royal "Me Time" Fit For A Queen
In this lesson, I share why you're so important and how necessary it is to take some royal "me time." You more than deserve it, and you're the only one who can to show others the importance of making yourself a priority. *Remember, if you have kids, you're role modeling self-care.
Here's How This Works...
STEP ONE: Purchase The Queen Of Delegation Course
STEP TWO: Check Your Inbox for the Login Info to Get Started A.S.A.P!
STEP THREE: Your Course Is Accessible From Your Computer, Tablet Or Phone, So You Can Get Started Right Away
What Clients Are Saying...
Delegation Is The Key To Ultimate Self-Care
A Queen's Mindset & Observations From The Throne...
First, we'll cover the current state of your queendom. This lesson opens with mindset, your "rights" and your "why." Then you'll learn about the feminine archetype of the queen, all her attributes, and how to embody her power. You'll be informed by some eye-opening statistic about why women are struggling and cover terms "invisible workload" the "mother-load" and the "default parent" and the "second shift."
Family Accountability Chore Audit Chart
This lesson discusses the importants of doing a family chore audit to highlight who's doing what. You'll learn the best-practices to having honest conversations about distributing responsibilities more equitably. Remember, chores are not "your responsibility" and they're not "women's work."
Negotiation Formula Template
This lesson covers the basics of negotiation. You'll learn how to get prepared for negotiations, how to express your feelings, for example...your overwhelm and frustration, and how to get those most important signed treaties.
Keys To The Castle
This lesson reviews all the done-for-you templates you can use to help your family learn chore standards and requirements, the what and when of their responsibilities, and how to make the best of and enjoy roundtable family summit meetings. Afterall, a queen build loyalty and recognized other's strengths.
Royal "Me Time" Fit For A Queen
In this lesson, I share why you're so important and how necessary it is to take some royal "me time." You more than deserve it, and you're the only one who can to show others the importance of making yourself a priority. *Remember, if you have kids, you're role modeling self-care.
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